Battling to sleep while your wife snores beside you, but far too frightened to discuss the issue with her in case she freaks out? You’re not the only one. Women are often much more sensitive about snoring than men.
It’s considered unladylike and can cause intense embarrassment so many husbands would rather live with the noise than inform their wives that they snore. When you consider the health implications of snoring, it’s obvious that a difficult conversation is necessary. Snoring affects both physical and psychological health in both the snorer and their partner and can have serious long-term consequences if left untreated so it’s certainly worth broaching the issue with your wife if she is snoring regularly.
Here are some tips as to how to approach the topic:
Choose your time wisely
First thing in the morning after a night of snoring when you are irritable and she’s probably also exhausted is not a good idea. A definite no-no is bringing it up mid-argument – a recipe for disaster with her likely to take huge offense. Try to remember that this problem is a medical one and not a personal failing on the part of your partner, so be kind and non-confrontational about it. Avoid teasing or making it into a joke which could lead to her feeling humiliated.
This is also something that should be discussed in private, not brought up in front of friends or family, even your children.
Although it may seem counter-intuitive to ruin a good moment, bring up the issue of her snoring when you have had an enjoyable, relaxed few hours together and you know you will be able to broach the subject in a calm, loving manner. This will keep the whole tone of the conversation low key and make it more likely that she is receptive.